The Seven BIG Online Profile Mistakes That Women Make With Their Photo's
MISTAKE 1
Pictures with children in them
Every day I see dozens of profiles where women have a picture of them with their little sister, their nephew, their cousins, their best friend’s kid, etc. This is the biggest mistake that you can make with your online profile.
Every man who sees a picture of a woman with a child on her profile assumes that the child is hers. I know that a lot of women explain their relationship to the child in the description.
Most men will see a picture of you with that child and immediately decide whether or not to read the profile based on whether or not they want to date a woman with children. The more attractive you are, the more likely a man is to still email you.
In his mind he is thinking, “I don’t want to date a woman with kids, but she’s so hot….”
We want to avoid this entire thought process early on. You want to short circuit this thought process. You don’t want a man’s first thought about you to be along these lines. If you actually do have children there are different ways of approaching the issue, but if they aren’t actually your kids you definitely don’t want to put them in your online profile.
What you have done is screened out about eighty percent of the male population. I personally don't want to date a woman who has children at this point in my life. My father married my mother when she already had a child and I know that it was always a major part of their marriage.
There are people who understand how I feel and people who feel it’s completely unfair. But their opinions don’t matter. All that matters is that a lot of men have this mindset. I live in a city right now where a large percentage of the women already have children. So as soon as men meet a woman like this, they have to start thinking about if I’m ready to be a father.
This is how men’s minds work. Now instead of thinking about her, he's thinking about all of the responsibility, etc.
This gives you a little bit of insight into how men think about a woman if she has a child. And if you have a picture of a child in any of your online dating profiles, men will instantly assume it’s yours.
==> Men and how they think <==
Having a child in your picture only leaves you with two groups of men. The first group is men who have children of their own or who are desperate to become fathers. These guys are looking at long-term relationships. So if you don't have kids you are going to start getting a ton of messages from fathers.
So now your inbox is full of messages from men who are the wrong fit for you. You have accidentally screened out the men you do want to date and screened in the men you don’t want to.
The other group of men who will still message you are guys who are looking for fast love. Guys who are looking to see you for a very short relationship won’t care about your single parent status. They aren’t going to be around long enough to even meet your kids.
This is even worse as now you are only getting emails from two opposite ends of the spectrum. Guys who want to raise your kids and guys who have already decided to dump you before they’ve even met you.
So now all you have are “nice guys” and jerks. You have designed a profile that keeps normal, quality guys from messaging you.
Tomorrow we look at "Types" of men. Who do you attract or who are you attracted to? Want to know?
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Until next time
Mary
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