OK, a couple blogs ago I was talking about men's
EMOTIONS and how to get guys
to OPEN UP and tell you how
he really feels.
So why would I go from talking
about a man's gooey emotional candy
inside his hard Piñata shell . . .
To talking about dirty talk,
men's fantasies and how to
Well, it all goes back
to a big (and true) cliche . . .
"Women have to feel emotionally
close to have sex . . .
And men need to have sex to feel emotionally
close."
This is why denying a guy sex
when you're having a fight is so
counterproductive.
It creates resentment and "hardens
the Piñata" while saying something
like "I'm really mad at you right
now and you're not off the hook,
but I want you" tends to motivate
guys to actually open up and apologize.
Plain and simple, if you get to know
a guy's true sexual mind and show
that you're cool with what he
wants . . .
1. He'll be more open with
you in general.
2. He'll be more motivated to
give you what YOU want sexually
and emotionally.
3. You'll both be happier.
BIG WARNING THOUGH:
Some women will read this and think
"Oh, so if I just have sex with
this guy I like a lot he'll
get totally bonded to me and fall
in love with me, right? After all,
when I have sex with a guy I can't
help but develop feelings for him,
so it must be the same for him
too."
Unfortunately, that's not how it works.
If you're in a relationship with a guy
(or if you're on the road to being in a
relationship with a guy) then sex is a
great emotional bonder . . .
But guys are guys.
Men tend to open up more to women
they love (or at least like)
when they have sex . . .
But guys are also 100% capable
of having unemotional, detached
sex with women too.
Confusing, huh?
I guess the best way to say this is . . .
"Sex doesn't CREATE a connection for guys,
We'll talk about this more later.
